It appears the bug with these tests was just that the MessageBuilder
wasn't setting the thread relation on the reply messages as this didn't
happen trying to repro it manually, so fix the builder and re-enable
the tests.
The flip side of this is that it implies buggy clients that don't
set thread relations properly will cause stuck notifs in Element Web.
I've filed this as https://github.com/element-hq/element-web/issues/26787